2 Tips that Flip Negative Thinking into Positive

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Whatever You Focus on Grows Bigger: Negative Thinking Evokes Negative Thinking

 

Have you ever noticed when you are interested in something like a certain car, a piece of cloth­ing or a specific goal that you tune into it everywhere? This is because of your Reticular Acti­vating System (RAS), the part of your brain located in the brainstem that controls many important functions, including breathing, heartbeats and tuning into what you really want in life. It pulls information from the background noise of life that is congruent with the messages it receives from your conscious mind. For example, if you are in a packed restaurant waiting for your name to be called, your RAS will block out the background noise and help you to tune into your name. Whatever you focus on in life grows bigger, be it positive or negative. The RAS aligns itself with what you believe about yourself: your capabilities and feelings of inadequacy. It is the physiological element behind Henry Ford’s statement: “Whether you believe you can, or you can’t, you’re right.”

 

Once you choose your focus, be very specific and release the self doubt. Even if you shift your wording from: “I can’t do this,” to “I don’t know how yet, and I am willing to trust that I am capable of gathering the information I need to enable me to do this easily,” you are shifting enough to activate your RAS and get it working for you rather than against you. Be very specific with your focus. Choose to reframe or erase and replace any goal that is not worded in the posi­tive. It is important to do this because the RAS will believe whatever you focus on: “I can do all things with God,” or “I can’t do anything right.” The evidence to back up what you focus on will start showing up in your life, thanks to your RAS; so choose your focus wisely.

 

Use Your Delete Key in Life to Flip Negative Thinking into Positive

 

In light of the previous entry, know that, in your life, you choose your areas of focus. You have the ability to delete what no longer serves you; because of your connection to the familiar, you simply forget that you can do so.

 

Human beings gravitate toward that which is familiar in life simply because they feel safe, regardless of the effect it has on their overall well being. “If it’s familiar, it’s safe.” Remember that one of your core needs is safety. With that said, you forget that you can choose to feel safe with the unfamiliar, especially when the unfamiliar is a greater benefit to your inner sense of peace and connection. Many people stay with old patterns of behavior, including negative thinking, because of this one statement: “Who would I be without this in my life?” Yes, even though it’s negative, simply because you have identified yourself with it for so long you have created a false sense of safety in that pattern of negative thinking. “It’s just who I am,” you say. However, it doesn’t have to be! And that is the freeing truth.

 

You are the gatekeeper when it comes to the power you give to negative thinking, thought patterns that keep swinging around into your mental radar. Simply ask: Does this thought serve the person I am committed to being? If the answer is no, say, “Delete” and follow up with, “I choose God over this negative thought pattern, I am willing to remember the words that support the person I am committed to being in this world.”  As mentioned in a previous post, choose 3 words that describe the person you are committed to being at the beginning of each week, I usually pick them on Sunday evening. Write the three words down, for example: This week I am committed to being kind, productive and playful. Put these 3 words in a place you will see them as you go about your day, identify and adjust those thoughts that do not align with your three words.

 

Become the observer of this crazy addiction to negative thinking patterns in your life simply because they are familiar to you and choose to make the shift to the positive. Use your delete button any time you are consciously aware of a negative pattern. Say out loud, “I choose to delete this, knowing it holds no value toward my inner peace” or simply say, “DELETE.” Your body knows what that word means. Follow up with a positive choice, word, phrase, verse or mantra that reconnects you to your God given strength and ability to choose what is good, right, pure, praise worthy and beautiful in this life.

 

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3 Responses to “2 Tips that Flip Negative Thinking into Positive

  • Lauren, thank you, this a wonderful encouragement for me,Ihave some pretty negative things that seem to come up during the night and have for many years, post raumass and memories and its very hard, sam working to change this patterned sleep through the night,I am now 65,, a survivor and thriver , expanding and growing, unlearning and learning anew. I wonder if you have special tips for those who have gone through years of complciacted grief , loss and trauma and not easily found support groups or peel who understand how strange and alienating losses can be, or estrangements form family or children, MY own patterns of negative thoughts that come unbidden and replay and replay, such drain, I still need to empower myself and tell myself i am in charge, its ok to rejecting eject, and delete the movie in the mind that is a horror film ! Deserve peace and good sleep and rest and to harness calm.I know Iam the,aster of my ship and want to be even more compassionately masterful and let go of the painful stuff . It helps me to picture Christ , and sometimes he is holding me, lately a little angel child appeared,one i saw when was only three who placed her hands over my ears as my parents battled and said harsh things.
    it has helped for me to use my imagination and memory in a more positive way , to invte Sprirt to show up and intervene when called . Ive noticed it’s remembering to ask that matters and feeling worthy to ask and r then to operand risk receiving, creativity is about receptivity . That’s taken a long time too, making great progress! Changing my perceptions one thought at a time or one image at a time , a picture worth a thousand words!
    One image in like to sue might be cradling a fearful heart in the arms of a loving maternal angel , or paternal or being hugged by a child angel,and that is what happened to me, recently . As that image appeared my tears started to flow than those washed way the grime of misperception and the false self, the lies i tell myself that no longer serve me or real life .
    Thankyou,
    Peace, loving kindness, gratitude and joy,
    Linda Howe

  • Lauren, thank you, this a wonderful encouragement for me,I have some pretty negative things that seem to come up during the night and have for many years, post traumas and memories and its very hard, i am working to change this pattern that distruprts sleeping through the night. I am now 65,, a survivor and thriver , expanding and growing, unlearning and learning anew.
    I wonder if you have special tips for those who have gone through years of complciacted grief , loss and trauma and not easily found support groups or peel who understand how strange and alienating losses can be, or estrangements form family or children, MY own patterns of negative thoughts that come unbidden and replay and replay, such drain, I still need to empower myself and tell myself i am in charge, its ok to rejecting eject, and delete the movie in the mind that is a horror film ! Deserve peace and good sleep and rest and to harness calm.I know Iam the,aster of my ship and want to be even more compassionately masterful and let go of the painful stuff . It helps me to picture Christ , and sometimes he is holding me, lately a little angel child appeared,one i saw when was only three who placed her hands over my ears as my parents battled and said harsh things.
    it has helped for me to use my imagination and memory in a more positive way , to invite Sprirt to show up and intervene when called . I’ve noticed it’s remembering to ask that matters and feeling worthy to ask and rthen to open and risk receiving, as creativity is about receptivity . That’s taken a long time too, making great progress! Changing my perceptions one thought at a time or one image at a time , a picture worth a thousand words!
    One image in like to sue might be cradling a fearful heart in the arms of a loving maternal angel , or paternal or being hugged by a child angel,and that is what happened to me, recently . As that image appeared my tears started to flow than those washed way the grime of misperception and the false self, the lies i tell myself that no longer serve me or real life .
    Thankyou,
    Peace, loving kindness, gratitude and joy,
    Linda Howe

  • Thank you Linda and to you too…yes one thought at a time and surrendering all to God for a greater good on this journey of life. If it were not for my relationship with God I would rise and fall depending upon how the world judged me at that time. Love and Blessings to you!

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