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  The Drug of Approval: What is it? How do I recover?   Whenever you cling to anything in this life— whether it is a certain response from the world; a relationship; a material item or desired outcome—happiness dies and anxiety increases.   Since you were little you began to learn very quickly what to do and say to get a desired outcome or response, and your addiction to the drug of approval began. It is similar to a spoiled child, the more you give it, the more it wants. This addiction to approval is fed by your desire to be acknowledged, approved of, popular, validated and praised. It is as if you are saying, “Please tell me that I am good enough, appreciated, smart enough and worthy to be loved and accepted.”   It is a serpent of a drug and will sap you of any remembrance that you already have everything you truly need within your soul for happiness to occur; along with inner peace and joy. It makes a mockery out of you with the antics you play in life all for a momentary high of being approved of or acknowledged.   Being a visionary and motivated … Continue reading

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Enjoy a Bonus Audio: 4 Powerful Tips for Pain Relief: Click Below to Listen In:         3 Tips to Take Back Your Power Over Pain:   After a strong workout last week, I found myself in fetal position after a simple cool down stretch rendering me couch bound for the last week.   After crying myself silly in the car as I drove to the doctor because the pain was so acute I crawled my way to the restroom to get a grip on my emotions before entering the waiting room. Thinking I was the only one in the bathroom I went into the stall to have a little chat with God and myself OUT LOUD while vigorously tapping on some stress relief points on my body:   “Ok Lauren, get a grip come on now breathe, practice what you know. God, right now I give YOU more authority than this pain. Even though I can barely breathe because this pain seems like it occupies every room in my castle I give you more authority over this emotional and physical titlewave.”   After a few moments of complete silence I heard the toilet flush in the stall … Continue reading

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3 Steps to Boost Your Energy this Week    In addition to drinking small amounts of water every 20 minutes and eating several small healthy meals throughout your day, weave in the following self care practices several times each day, beginning 1st thing in the morning…    Alternate Nostril Breathing: using your finger tips close the right nostril breathe in deeply through the left nostril => Switch and close your left nostril as you Breathe out through the right nostril, breathe in through the right nostril => Switch and close your right nostril Breathe out through the left nostril, breathe in through the left nostril => Switch and close the left nostril and breathe in deeply through the right nostril, breathe out through the right nostril => Switch and close the right nostril and breathe in through the left nostril, breathe out through the left nostril.  Repeat several times. We only breathe predominantly out of one nostril.  When we are out of balance we are heavy breathers from one nostril.  This creates biological balance.   Stand up. Bounce on the balls of your feet. Use your fingertips to gently tap on the space under your collarbone, beginning at the center of the … Continue reading

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To connect or not, the choice is yours. You come into the world with a certain personality and emotional acuity. Life happens, including different perspectives and responses. The problem occurs when familiar reactive responses override your desire to create positive connections with people you care about. When you are in a heated discussion with another person often times you ignite your primal brain, which paralyzes your ability to access creative solution based thinking along with igniting stress hormones in the body.   Open-minded thinking shuts down as soon as you feel attacked in a conversation. Your ability to truly listen is swallowed up with an unbridled focus to protect your position in the argument at all costs. The following three responses are sure to sabotage relationships you care about:   Stonewalling (tuning the other person out) is a common response when a person is feeling attacked.   Defensive Behavior is another common response when you feel threatened in a conversation.  The EGO (Edging God Out) has a hay day in this type of reactive behavior. In Tae Kwon Do we referred to this as: Block, Punch, Kick   Ugly Talk talk or more commonly known as criticism often shows up quickly in … Continue reading

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We live in a society that mucks around in the very element that wreaks havoc on a sense of life satisfaction. “I can’t get no satisfaction” occurs within the person who plays the New Age game of I, me, my/ bigger, better, more. Attachment and unbridled ambition are the names of two reptile serpents that wreak havoc on our sense of security, value and purpose in life. These two reptiles slither into our interior castle, spewing out lies that fuel destructive feelings of lack & scarcity along with a sense of entitlement and victimization. Jealousy and envy slither in right behind unbridled ambition and attachment. An attachment is an emotional state of clinging due to the belief that without some thing, person, status or outcome, I can’t be happy. Can you imagine how much headspace would be cleared up if we simply abandon the vigil we keep around our attachments? “Will I get what I want? Deserve? Have been toiling for? Am I enough? Appreciated? Acknowledged? I need more stuff to know I have made it, I matter. All too often we seek the living among the dead. A worthy contemplation: “What was I put on this earth to give … Continue reading

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          The Drug of Approval: Once again, I draw on the profound wisdom that comes from my spiritual mentor Anthony de Mello. Whenever you cling to anything in this life— whether it is a certain response from the world; a relationship; a material item or desired outcome—happiness dies and anxiety increases. Since you were little you began to learn very quickly what to do and say to get a desired outcome or response, and your addiction to the drug of approval began. It is similar to a spoiled child, the more you give it, the more it wants. This addiction to approval is fed by your desire to be acknowledged, approved of, popular, validated and praised. It is as if you are saying, “Please tell me that I am good enough, appreciated, smart enough and worthy to be loved and accepted.” It is a serpent of a drug and will sap you of any remembrance that you already have everything you truly need within your soul for happiness to occur; along with inner peace and joy. It makes a mockery out of you with the antics you play in life all for a momentary high of … Continue reading

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Here is a quick look into behind the scenes of your brain and your mental ship.   Basically, 90 % of your actions and responses in life flow from what is referred to in NLP as your SHIP: Strategies/Habits/Impulses/Programs (I will give you more insight into your SHIP in the near future).   10% of your conscious mind is driven by your WAR: Willpower/Analytics/Reason AND FOUR physical conditions/emotions that quickly paralyze your ability to use your WAR for your highest good and the good of those concerned:   Hunger Anger Lonely Tired   Perhaps you are all too familiar with your HALT?   When you forget to give the appropriate attention and care to these four areas, you will notice that your mental SHIP begins to sink quickly: your ability to come up with creative solutions and maintain inner confidence and calm.   These weeks commit to the following tips to help keep your SHIP sailing in a positive direction:   Pause when you feel angry and ask yourself a simple question: What fear is behind this anger?  Anger’s main fuel is fear: fear of not measuring up/fear of failure/fear of losing status, not gaining desired recognition, acknowledgment, approval, not … Continue reading