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How to Flip from Competition into Collaboration: Chances are, if you are still wearing your earth suit you have encountered an overtly unhappy human being.  Perhaps the display of unhappiness comes in their intonation, body language and/or choice of words.  Much of our instinct to fight, run or freeze flows from an innate desire to be liked, right and understood: “I feel safe when I feel that you understand where I am coming from and validate my perspectives and input.” As you explore seeking to understand more consistently within your conversations through curiosity and fascination you will find that you have the ability to flip a space from one of competition to one of collaboration.   Learning how to flip from competition into collaboration shifts the entire energy within a room and physiologically opens up the brain’s ability to access valuable pieces of information that are all too often deleted, distorted or generalized in the mind muck that occurs in the ring of competition, it is an inner game worth learning the skill set needed for success in life. Understand that when people find themselves in an Animal Planet moment, kicking and screaming their way through the day, it is … Continue reading

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3 Tips to Help You Shake It Off In Africa and other cultures, shaking therapy is used for emotional healing. Literally shaking off your perceived emotional threat: fear; self-doubt; worry. Imagine a duck in the water. The water simply beads up on the ducks feathers and then flung into the air after a good shake. Almost every creature in the animal kingdom shakes it off. Take the zebra for example. The lioness jumps on the zebra’s backside pulling the zebra to the ground, followed by a quick shake and the zebra runs off, we have the God given ability to do the same; however we all too often stay down and get devoured by our perceived threat in life rather than standing back up and shaking it off. Try it. Next time you find yourself emotional spun by what someone else said or didn’t say or a specific situation that side swipes you in life find some good open space, imagine the irritation beading up on your body and start shaking it off from your feet all the way up to the top of your head. Most of the time when I use this technique I end up flipping my … Continue reading

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Your RAS: What is it? Your RAS is an essential system in your body you need to know about as it is responsible for behavioral motivation and more. The system that is either your best friend or worst enemy and you get to choose the outcome. Have you ever noticed when you are interested in something like a certain car, a piece of clothing or a specific goal that you tune into it everywhere? This is because of your Reticular Activating System (RAS), the part of your brain located in the brainstem that controls many important functions, including breathing, heartbeats and tuning into what you really want in life. It pulls information from the background noise of life that is congruent with the messages it receives from your conscious mind. For example, if you are in a packed restaurant waiting for your name to be called, your RAS will block out the background noise and help you to tune into your name. Whatever you focus on in life grows bigger, be it positive or negative. The RAS aligns itself with what you believe about yourself: your capabilities and feelings of inadequacy. It is the physiological element behind Henry Ford’s statement: … Continue reading

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The Jealousy Jungle Have you ever experienced jealousy? It’s as if a crazy spider monkey takes over within you, you can’t think or respond with any amount of clarity. Jealousy or envy flow from an ungrateful heart and, if prolonged, have the ability to physiologically affect your body. Proverbs 14:30 says, “A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.”   Jealousy flows from a desire to have what someone else has or fear that someone will take aways something you have as is the case in relationships. It is a creepy little serpent that robs you of your ability to rejoice with those who experience prosperity and joy in life. It flows from a space of lack and scarcity that cries out of the pit of victimization and entitlement: I want what you have. The bottom line of this imprisoned response to life flows from the following belief: I need what you have in order to feel successful; loved; enough; complete; like I have made it. What’s your muse?   Jealousy acts as a fertilizer to stress in the body. It flows from feelings of lack and inadequacy. When you find yourself imprisoned by … Continue reading

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Replay of  Today’s 15 Min Grab & Go Stress Solutions Made Easy Call Below:   How to Boost Your Confidence to Be You.   Believe it or not there is 1 thing that holds us back again and again from fully and confidently occupying the space of who we are in this world: Embarrassment.   When you choose to step out of the “What will people think phobia” you will instantly boost your confidence in being you.   How many times have you been on the edge of your seat about to jump into a discussion head first with your thoughts; creative ideas; insights and intuition only to have the grim reaper clamp down on your ability to speak? Suddenly you feel a knot in your stomach and your throat restricts as the flow of your valuable wisdom comes to a screeching halt just before the exit door of your mouth. A member of the group may even pick up on your body language and notice that you have something you want to say. God forbid he or she calls you out, “Did you have some input you want to share?” Which ignites your heartbeat to the rate of a … Continue reading

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  Two Things You Wish You Knew Before Stressing Out =>   1. Careful What You Think: Your Body is Listening   You are the gatekeeper for your thoughts, positive or negative. You get to choose what you keep and what you release. “Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you’re right!” —Henry Ford. As you believe, so shall it be! Jesus often explored the belief of the one who was to be healed before the healing occurred. The miracles took place according to the faith of those receiving them. Belief is essential for any lasting transformation in this life to take place. Your thoughts flow from your beliefs and many of those beliefs manifested out of negative situations in life: I’m unworthy, unlovable, incapable; nothing ever works out for me; for anything to be worthwhile it needs to be difficult; I’m a loser; and on and on.   The water studies from Japan came to my awareness during my experience with cancer. The impact visually inspired me to make it a practice to watch the words I used throughout my treatment and subsequent healing. Basically, our bodies are made up of 70% water. Dr. Masaru Emoto, author of … Continue reading

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The disease to please comes from farming out your sense of identity into the acts of service you do for others. Serving others in this world is a wonderful experience with many emotional and physiological benefits, but you’re trapped when your sense of who you are is directly linked to what you do for others. You have given your power away to something or someone outside of you; this leaves you vulnerable to emotional instability. The disease to please is often accom­panied by this statement: “Who would I be if I was unable to please those around me?” Perfectionism also walks hand-in-hand with the disease to please: “In order to love and accept myself, what I do for others must be done per­fectly; at least it must follow my inner criteria for perfection.” Often these beliefs are associated with the need to please in order to feel good about yourself: “I’m unseen, unheard, underap­preciated, not good enough, incapable, overlooked and invalidated.” A vicious cycle often accompanies this condition: “I please you; then I feel good about me. I don’t please you; then I don’t feel good about me.” How about exploring what needs to shift in terms of your perception … Continue reading