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Have you ever lied for greatness?  I woke up thinking how many times I have done this in my life: Lied for Greatness.   As human beings, we lie or distort the truth because we are afraid: afraid of failure or success; that we don’t measure up; that we are not enough just as we are; fear of what others will think or say if we speak the truth; fear of not getting what we feel we need in order to completely love and accept ourselves and/or to feel accomplished and successful or simply afraid that we won’t get our desired outcome.   Have you ever made a statement that you know is false yet you find the words tumbling out of your mouth before you can stop them?   This is a perfect example of what happens when the drug of approval overtakes your moral compass in life.   When your desire to be seen, acknowledged, recognized and approved of exceeds your inner knowing that you are enough just as you are, that God delights in your uniqueness, you become vulnerable to this stress producing energy leak.   Keep watch on this one, it’s a creepy little reptile that … Continue reading

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   Video Above: Failure: How to Get Over It   I just interviewed a dear friend and colleague of mine co-founder of ACT: Mike Muhney.   Mike and his then business partner, Pat Sullivan launched ACT! on April 1, 1987. With it they produced a best-selling product that digitilized the Daytimer® era and created the contact management software category, which was a catalyst for the multi-billion-dollar customer relationship management (CRM) sofware industry. Kind of a big deal out there in the world in terms of game-changer inventions wouldn’t you say?   Now you would think after that kind of success you would kick back and retire right? Not so with Mike, he geared back up again and gave birth to a mobile relationship manager: VIPorbit .     In this interview you will see how Mike shifted his understanding of failure into a learning experience in his life and some very valuable reminders to all of us who pursue personal excellence and success in life.  I was taking notes during the interview so I wouldn’t forget some of the wisdom Mike has gained from losing something he valued most in the pursuit of success.   Some of the greatest leaders in … Continue reading

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            Past and future mind muck block us from gaining powerful lessons for future victories. The smell of rain can help reduce stress and boost your mood. The below blog offers some powerful questions that could guide you into the experience of dancing in the rain. A special prayer goes out to all of those who lost their lives on 9-11-2001, as well as their family and friends, including our dear friend Bill, Bill and all who knew and loved him.   Have you ever laid awake ruminating over the following 2 thoughts:   “I need to know how things are going to turn out.”   “I need to know why things happened as they did.”   Can you imagine the head space cleared up if we regained the ability to step away from the need to know how things will turn out and why things happen as they do?   I remember as I went through advanced cancer and divorce at the same time spending way too much time spinning myself into an anxiety storm over those two thoughts. Many people asked me why I thought I got cancer in the first place. My … Continue reading

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  As the man or woman think thoughts their entire body will follow along with their circumstances: positively or negatively. 2 Tips to Flip Thoughts into Positivity: Staying Sane in the Midst of Insanity According to a recent study by the American Psychological Association, 75% of Americans experience “mega stress.” Stress is simply a signal within your body giving you an amazing opportunity to identify and adjust your perception of a situation, along with your behavior. We forget that whatever we focus on grows bigger quickly…positive or negative. Here are three quick tips to help you stay sane in the midst of the insanity:   This is worth repeating: know what you value most in life. Stress creeps in when you forget what you value most in life. When you spend most of your energy on the “non-essentials” in life, you begin to feel depleted very quickly, and the stress hormone begins to double. Create moments, every day, which nurture what you value most in this life and notice how quickly clarity of thinking and inner peace return.   Let go of this belief: In order to be loved and accepted, I need to be perfect… have the perfect house, … Continue reading

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Nothing Thrives in a State of War: Pause for a moment and reflect on the above statement. Have you had an earth school class that has led you to this conclusion? When I faced my opponent in the ring, at The World Tae Kwon Do State Championship, I remember reflecting on this statement: Nothing thrives in a state of war. My goal in the ring was clear: to flip the opposing force coming against me into my favor by directing it in such a way so as to open up an opportunity to reach my goal (get a point or three). As soon as I lost the mental game my technique and skill-set went down with it: Nothing thrives in a state of war. As I have shared before, I ended up getting knocked out by an illegal hook kick to my head. When I came around just minutes before being counted out, rage and anger replaced clear, confident focus and I went after my opponent as if I was in a war zone. I ended up winning the silver medal, yet lost in the eyes of my 8th degree black belt trainer from Korea because I flipped into a … Continue reading

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  The American Psychological Association says stress costs corporations $300 billion a year in absences, medical costs, lost productivity, and turnover. 78% of American workers feel burned out and a third of Americans say they’re living with extreme stress. Nearly 80% of all doctor visits are stress-related and 43% of adults are sick because of stress.[1]   A landmark 20-year study conducted by the University of London concluded that unmanaged reactions to stress were a more dangerous risk factor for cancer and heart disease than either cigarette smoking or high cholesterol foods.[2] Get the picture? Workplace stress not only costs money; it costs lives. Stress is a silent killer and one of the top stressors that occur in the workplace: “Oh no, what if I lose my job? I stress out every time I have to speak, travel, complete a project by a deadline, or have a performance review.”   What if you know that no matter what situation you find yourself in at work two beliefs will direct your responses? “I am OK just as I am, and I am capable of handling any situation before me.” How would that shift your percep­tion? And the other little cure for … Continue reading

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  How to Flip Out of Pick Me Panic OK let’s be honest here…what is one thing that keeps spinning you out of inner peace and confidence as you walk through earth school? Is it not the fear of rejection, which is fueled by the desire for approval, acknowledgement and recognition? Or perhaps you might recognize it better in the following phrases:   The drug of approval The disease to please The fear of not measuring up The not enough syndrome The pick ME panic The “I will accept myself” when identity cyclone   All of the above have one thing in common: ATTACHMENT. An attachment is an emotional state of clinging due to the belief that without a specific outcome we cannot feel successful; confident and peaceful. Really? Have we come to the point of farming out our identity to outside circumstance to define our worth, value and capability to the point of rendering ourselves into a state of anxiety and stress?   Ask yourself the following questions the next time you do not get what you want and therefore spin your body into a stress storm:   What specifically do I want to remember to help me return … Continue reading