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  Learn => Reflect => Identify & Adjust => Integrate => Act   2 Questions to Ask Yourself When You are Emotionally Spun:   Let’s face it, life does not always show up the way we want it to. Our greatest place of empowerment lies in our ability to hold our own personal field in spite of the antics that take place in our near field.     Our personal field consists of our choice of response to situations. It is everything that resides inside our interior castle: our connection with the Holy Spirit, our perceptions, conclusions, assumptions and judgments about life. We are the director in the personal field or the landlord of our thoughts, this is the space of free will, by your choice of perspective (assumptions, conclusions and judgments) you direct how your body will respond…in fight, flight freeze OR in creative choices and solution based responses. You get to choose if life is for you or against you in your personal field.     Your near field consists of your relationships with those around you…those situations that exist outside of your personal field. This is where your choice of response manifests outside of you. For example, … Continue reading

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Do you want more meaning in life?   Try this: A Practice for More Meaning in Life   Appreciative inquiry is the practice of reflection which allows more time to pause and ponder the moments that unfold before you, including your choice of response. In this pause you are able to reflect on the pieces which support and expand the person you want to be and the meaning you gain from circumstance. Too often we are so busy doing that we neglect the power of the pause. The pause allows us to reflect on what we are doing and ask if what we are doing aligns with the person we are committed to being.   Similar to a puzzle with many pieces. It is easy to exert effort as you attempt to make a piece fit into the last corner of a puzzle only to realize after reflection that it is a piece from another puzzle. How many times have you stuck with an old behavior simply because it was familiar to you rather than pausing to ask: Does this behavior support the highest version of who I am in this world? What could I do to release this behavior … Continue reading

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Clarity of focus leads to accuracy of response. Are you feeling as if you need a tune up when it comes to inner confidence and the courage to stand up for what you believe? Are you confused about what to believe these days? Below are 10 Things to Believe in the New Year that help anchor a life lived from the inside out and is marked by confident trust that all is well. Stress is the body’s response to your thought life. It’s time to re-establish healthy boundaries around what you believe. The biggest element that was missing whenever Jesus unlocked a miracle in the lives of those around Him was that of belief.   When the doctors told me that it was their goal to get me five more years of life back in 2006 I had a choice in that moment to believe in my ability to receive healing in spite of the prognosis. I chose life no matter what the doctors believed about the cancer that had taken up residence in my body. I chose to believe that negative thoughts of fear, doubt and worry had no place within my mind. As the landlord of my thought … Continue reading

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3 Quick Tips to Help You Stay Sane in the Midst of the Holiday Insanity   According to a recent study by the American Psychological Association 75% of Americans are stressed out to the max going into this Holiday Season. To avoid even more stress as you enter the Season to be Jolly.Joy is actually an inside job. Peace returns when you step away from needing specific outcomes in order to feel successful or enough.  Stress is simply a signal within your body giving you an amazing opportunity to identify and adjust your perception of a situation, along with your behavior. We forget that whatever we focus on grows bigger quickly…positive or negative.Enjoy 3 quick tips to help you stay sane in the midst of the insanity:   Know what you value most in life. When your priorities are clear, decisions are easy. Stress creeps in when you forget what you value most in life. When you spend most of your energy on the “nonessentials” in life you begin to feel depleted very quickly and the stress hormone begins to double. Create moments every day that nurture what you value most in this life and notice how quickly clarity of … Continue reading

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How to Boost Your Relationships this Holiday Season:   Have you ever wondered why you cringe when you see another human being in distress either physically or emotionally? This holiday season opens up more awareness around what really matters in life. Those things you get to take with you beyond the pine box. My husband and are into the Hallmark Channel which shows the same theme of love lost and found in 100 different scripts, all of which are moving because they touch on our deepest desire to love and be loved along this journey of life.   Recently at the Bronco game I watched one of our players get steam rolled by another player, I instantly recoiled in my seat and groaned as if I was the one who was hit. The other day I was watching a woman who had lost her child tearfully tell her story on TV, I wept for her situation even though I have never personally lost a child. When working with clients one on one I will be able to read an emotion around a situation they are describing before they verbally share how they felt about it. We are created with an … Continue reading

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Inner peace returns as you expand the gap between what happens outside of you and your choice of response to it. “For God did not give us a spirit of fear but of POWER, Love & Self-Control.” 1 Timothy 1:7   One of my favorite reminders of who I am in this world comes from the above verse in 1 Timothy 1:7.  Let’s dismantle this a little to give it more clarity of focus thus increasing our ability to put it into daily action.   First of all, know what you are and what you are not. This releases inner anxiety instantly:   You are a child of God, possessing the blue print of the creator of the universe flowing through your spirit that is beyond all momentary troubles and tribulations.  Your spirit knows itself to be enough, capable and victorious at all times even in the eye of the storm. Simply put, you are first and foremast a spiritual being having a physical experience, as proclaimed by the Christian mystics throughout history.     You are not your circumstance; judgments from yourself and others; traumatic situations; rejection; fear; doubt or worry…unless you choose to believe you are in which case the spirit … Continue reading

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          Much of your anxiety in family relationships flows from your inner list of requirements that connect you to your ‘tribe’. You connect with the tribe when you follow the tribal rules, many of which are unspoken. When you feel that you fall short of connecting to your tribe and honoring the tribal codes, anxiety begins to quickly grow. Perhaps it is as simple as when your family gathers for Sunday dinner and one Sunday night you have plans. A common emotional response may be guilt—and all participants have their role in it.   Guilt is a tribal tool that many families use to control their members… watch out for it because it serves no one and when you allow yourself to react to it, you become an enabler to this unhealthy behavior. When you give yourself permission to move in a different direction than your tribe, you may experience protest. However, when you choose to be a seeker of truth within and around you, peace will eventually return—and in most cases with the tribe members as well.   Remember, whatever a member of your family says or does is not a personal attack on you, … Continue reading