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Mid-year is a wonderful time to reflect on how much power you are giving to outside circumstance to define your worth, value and capability. By popular demand take a moment and explore the power you give to the opinions and reactions of other people: How Not to Care What People Think => …Or better worded: how to release your attachment to other people’s opinions and reactions. Let’s face it we care way too much about what other people think. Be honest here, how much of what spins you out of peace in your life is directly linked to another person’s opinion or reaction to you? 50%? 75%? 99.9%?   Can you imagine freeing up that mind space to explore solutions and create what you are here to create in earth school? Our vice of thinking about what people think about us can be released by simply doing this one thing: releasing the drug of approval. Many of you have heard me speak on this crazy addiction, which has held us all back from personal excellence way too many times in our lives.   The drug of approval is fueled by too much concern on our part around how we are … Continue reading

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  Let’s face it, the high demands of work and home life can quickly snuff out our pilot light and flat-line our energy compromising the highest version of who we want to be personally and professionally. We live in a society that highly values energy conservation to protect our beautiful planet yet fail to put it into practice in our interior world.   Do you want more energy in life? Energy is your capacity for action. For a continual flow of energy to be a constant in your life the art of healthy boundary setting is essential. Think of a boundary as the drawbridge to your interior world. Too often you leave your drawbridge down and your interior castle becomes compromised by energy suckers in life. What the heck is an energy sucker? You tell me. What steals your energy, knocks your lights out and leaves you groping around in the darkness of sluggishness? When was the last time you felt like a fish swimming through jello? When did the weight of the world feel so heavy that you could barely get out of bed?   We each have different elements in our lives unique to our personality, goals, belief … Continue reading

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    Learn & Reflect => I watched Tolkien’s Lord of the Rings with my husband on Saturday and was once again captivated by the metaphors between darkness and light. One theme in particular caught my attention: men are deceived by the obsession for power and therefore held captive to it once it is attained. The physical example of this is Gollum (the “unman” or the man who loses himself in that which he desired to possess) represents the loss of good character in the face of greed and selfish ambition, (the desire for power) which I referenced in a previous post.   Greed is defined as an insatiable desire or longing for excess of something, usually wealth, status, power or food. I invite you to expand your radar around greed to include 5 main love languages as defined by Gary Chapman: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. After several years of couple’s coaching I have witnessed the home-wrecking trend of not-enoughness. Knowing your love language and the love language of your significant other is a key component to the art of sustainable and fulfilling connection. Too often we will give out what we … Continue reading

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  Learn & Reflect:   According to Websters, the definition of freedom is the absence of necessity, coercion or constraint; to be released from something onerous (troublesome/a burden); liberation from the power of another. The Holy Scriptures offer an intriguing invitation based on Jesus Christ’s life mission from Galatians 1:5: “It is for freedom that Christ has set you free. Stand firm then and do not allow yourself to be burdened by the yoke of slavery.” What is your yoke of slavery that holds you captive and robs you of your ability to step into the possible? Perhaps it is an old belief system that overrides any attempt on your part to move forward in a positive direction: I’m not capable; I can’t do that; Good things happen to other people but not to me; It’s never enough, I’m never enough; If I’m not working and producing I have no worth and value. Pause and reflect on one statement that you feel is constraining you, a phrase that has been running on auto-pilot beneath the surface of your identity sabotaging your attempts to live and move and have your being in a free and confident manner? Write this statement down … Continue reading

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Do you need a break from you? Have you ever paused and proclaimed: “WOW! It takes so much energy to be me?” I blurted this statement out when I was in fetal position after a difficult chemo treatment. Laughter actually spilled out with this “ah-ha” moment: WOW, I can’t believe how much energy it takes to be me in this world.   Come with me a little deeper on this high noticing statement and reflect for a few moments on your inner list of requirements that you have placed on yourself in life to feel that you are enough? A powerful self reflection practice is to take a quiet moment and answer the following two questions:   1. I will completely and deeply accept all that I am and all God has created me to be when….(reflect on those to-do lists and ask yourself what is the fuel behind what you choose to spend your precious hours of life doing during the day, this results in living with intention).   2. I will love myself when…for some of my clients this is not a block in their life, instead they will drive themselves to the point of unnecessary self-judgement and … Continue reading

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  So what is an unhealthy impulse? An impulse is a sudden STRONG URGE or desire to ACT.  Knowing that you can see that channeled in the right direction, impulses can work FOR or AGAINST you.   As you go throughout your week I invite you to once again, stand back and observe how you do life.  Perhaps you have heard the saying, “think before you act”?     Gnosis, or knowledge of spiritual mysteries…spiritual wisdom, tends to drop in when you step back from situations in life before taking action to seek understanding.   When you step back this week simply ask yourself: Does my choice to jump in and take action in this situation benefit my highest good and the good of all concerned?     If the answer is no then use this technique to help sever any impulse residue that is against your better judgment (this works for unhealthy eating habits, speaking habits…behavioral patterns you desire to step out of ):   Your subconscious programs that often fuel your impulsive behaviors are best redirected using the combination of emotions and visual images.   Example: You have the impulse to eat a certain food that you know does not fuel your … Continue reading

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  Embarrassment: Stop it!     How many times have you been on the edge of your seat about to jump into a discussion head first with your thoughts; creative ideas; insights and intuition only to have the grim reaper clamp down on your ability to speak? Suddenly you feel a knot in your stomach and your throat restricts as the flow of your valuable wisdom comes to a screeching halt just before the exit door of your mouth. A member of the group may even pick up on your body language and notice that you have something you want to say. God forbid he or she calls you out, “Did you have some input you want to share?” Which ignites your heartbeat to the rate of a human being mid-marathon. You sink down into your chair, wipe the sweat from your brow and squeak out a quick, “no, no I’m good.” Embarrassment has it’s roots deeply embedded within a self-focused phobia called: What will people think? Perhaps this is one of the many curses tied to the experience of  ‘adulting’.   What happened? What causes a natural expression of our inner truth and wisdom to come to a complete … Continue reading