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  Perhaps you have heard me mention that you are the landlord of your mind. As we SPRING into the season of new growth and renewal it is a valuable reflection to pause and wonder how many tenants are we giving free rent to that need to be cleaned out of our mind and habits.   Want more patience in your life this spring? Evict the tenant that suffers from “not-enoughness” and lives in the space of entitlement. Replace the LARGE room that impatience took up with the tenants of endurance, humility and temperance.   Want more confidence? Evict the tenant that is addicted to the drug of approval and who feeds on an insatiable desire to hear from others that it is enough in life. Give it’s room over to more of the Holy Spirit, which has so much self regard that it chooses to travel invisibly through our lives.   Want more joy? Evict the tenant whose prayers are focused on self gratification and fulfillment of it’s own desires and goals and replace it’s space with gratitude and service of those in need. For our greatest joy lies in the measure through which we serve.   How about … Continue reading

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Expanded on from Source: Colorado Biz Magazine, 2014 =>   What is rumination?   One of my favorite definitions can be found on Wikipedia, which describes rumination as “compulsively focused attention on symptoms of one’s distress and on its possible causes and consequences as opposed to its solutions.”   Rumination flows from an unsatisfied state of being and is often fueled by our self -judgments due to unmet goals or perceived failures in life. Remember, failure is simply a label we place on undesirable outcomes.   Ruminating is something we do in our mind over past negative events that evoke undesirable feelings and emotions. Cows ruminate. They chew their “cud” and swallow it only to spit it back up and chew on it some more. Cows actually need to chew on their food twice in order to digest it. They can spend up to eight hours each day chewing on their cud.   So my question to you this week worth exploration is simple: How many hours a day do you spend chewing on your cud? What percentage of your focused attention is spent on past events and possible causes and consequences, occupying precious mind space you could be using … Continue reading

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Are you living a large portion of your life frustrated? The solution lies in the above video: STOP IT! Stress is the power YOU give to outside circumstance to define your worth, value and capability. Much of what spins you out of inner peace and confidence flows from the power you give to circumstance and situations. Granted the element of PTSD is a serious biological and emotional reactive response to trauma and thus requires attention and solution: Energy Psychology modalities offer sustainable solutions: CLICK HERE to explore. What I explore in this blog has to do with daily frustration that all too often robs us of the best version of who we want to be in life. When we are frustrated we are usually operating from the lymbic brain which only offers us 3 choices of response: run from the situation (avoidance), fight (bullying, ugly talk) or freeze (stone walling behaviors). Let’s face it, we have an innate desire to be seen, acknowledged and recognized which all too often flips us out of inner confidence and throws us into a whirlwind of frustration and stress. Can you imagine waking up tomorrow morning without any head trash of distraction around the … Continue reading

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            How to Have More Happiness:     Learn => Reflect => Identify & Adjust => Integrate => Act     Happiness walks hand in hand with our ability to make a meaningful positive contribution in daily life. Have you ever jumped into your day with great intentions to show up with the best version of you only to be sabotaged by the first thing that slows you down in life? Perhaps it’s a car that cuts you off; an employee that that disagrees with your proposed plan; your dog who happened to get sick all night; a friend who starts to use you as a dumping ground; a teenager who slams the door in your face.   Thank God, that God sees us for who we DESIRE to be rather than how our behavior shows up. Let’s explore a helpful technique that will assist us in our ability to hold our personal field in a place that honors the person we are committed to being. The person that we would like to be remembered by. Happiness arises when we align our actions with the person we are committed to being. Too often we allow … Continue reading

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Loss Leads to Perspective   A great loss leaves a great gift behind: Instant perspective on all that is truly important in this life. Craig Morgan has written a country song that speaks to this experience, “This Ain’t Nothin’.” The lyrics contain a conversation between a reporter and a man who just lost his home in a tornado. The man says losing his home is nothing compared to the loss of the ones he loved during his lifetime.   As with all challenges, many of which are out of your control, you ALWAYS have the choice to grow in the ways of wisdom in the midst of it all. The result is “the peace that passes all human understanding.” This kind of peace can only be obtained through the experiences of passing through great loss or tribulation. It gives you the opportunity to let go, accept what is and appre­ciate all that is essential, authentic and good in life. This is a process of life changing healing.   After you obtain a perspective of the essential things in life, you may find that onlookers of your uncommon peace will ask with curiosity, “How can you remain so calm about this, … Continue reading

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3 Relationship Busters to Avoid:   To connect or not, the choice is yours. You come into the world with a certain personality and emotional acuity. Life happens, including different perspectives and responses. The problem occurs when familiar reactive responses override your desire to create positive connections with people you care about. A relationship is a state in which you connect with another person. Our goal in relationships we care about is to create meaningful connection as often as possible. Sometimes it is simply a matter of shifting our intonation from one that is hard to one that is tender and kind.   When you are in a heated discussion with another person often times you ignite your primal brain, which paralyzes your ability to access creative solution based thinking along with igniting stress hormones in the body.   Open-minded thinking shuts down as soon as you feel attacked in a conversation. Your ability to truly listen is swallowed up with an unbridled focus to protect your position in the argument at all costs. When flipped into the limbic brain due to feelings of threat you only have three choices of response: fight, flight or flee. The following behaviors will … Continue reading

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  Learn => Reflect => Identify & Adjust => Integrate => Act     Identity: How Not to Care What People Think in 2017:   …Or better worded: how to release your attachment to other people’s opinions and reactions. Let’s face it we care way too much about what other people think. Be honest here, how much of what spins you out of peace in your life is directly linked to another person’s opinion or reaction to you? 50%? 75%? 99.9%?   Can you imagine freeing up that mind space to explore solutions and create what you are here to create in earth school? Our vice of thinking about what people think about us can be released by simply doing this one thing: releasing the drug of approval. Many of you have heard me speak on this crazy addiction, which has held us all back from personal excellence way too many times in our lives.   The drug of approval is fueled by too much concern on our part around how we are perceived by people around us. Jealousy, envy and below the line behavior twists our mind and robs us of inner peace and is the direct result of … Continue reading