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    How Your Body Can Change Your Mind. I am currently taking another workshop on the brain and learning new tips on how to create sustainable change in the mind. As we increase our ability to think about thinking (meta-cognition) we are given the opportunity to jump in and shift the serpents fear, self-doubt and worry into a place of positivism…or not. Your body can actually change your mind. Science shows that certain Power Poses, can increase testosterone and decrease the stress hormone. Amy Cuddy, a researcher at Harvard University, studies how certain poses of the body can trigger hormone shifts and inner confidence in the mind.   Similar to the positive biological effects of laughter and smiling, holding certain power poses with our body for 2 minutes can also flip our biology into a positive space. You will often hear me say, “occupy your space.” As we create and maintain a positive stance in our body, our mind will follow. Fake it till’ you make is a phrase which aligns with another commonly heard phrase in energy psychology: act as if. Smiling, laughing and even acting as if you are in a better mental space by dancing or … Continue reading

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  Have you ever found yourself mucking around in procrastination? I’ll get to it tomorrow syndrome too often sabotages our goal accomplishment efforts. The next time you find yourself in avoidance behavior like picking up lint balls off your carpet instead of jumping into your next challenging project pause and ask yourself: What am I avoiding? Is it a project that is not aligned with my talents OR belief around my ability to be successful at the project OR is it that I simply have absolutely no interest in doing the project yet feel I have no way out?   Dismantle the resistance around a positive forward action step and peal that procrastination onion back; give yourself permission to see the situation for what it is and then remember you have the God given ability to override mind blocks. Eckhart Tolle reminds us that, “there are no problems, simply situations that require our attention for solution.”   Procrastination can keep you from implementing a high-powered project simply because you fear it won’t be good enough or you simply don’t want to put in the effort needed to get’er done.   Infusing our push back, “I don’t want to do this” … Continue reading

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How to anchor a positive emotion is a question worth answering. Can you imagine being able to access a positive emotion in the midst of stressful situations? The ability to tune into a positive emotion will allow you to access the part of your brain which is responsible for executive thinking (solution based thinking).   Believe it or not you have been establishing anchors your entire life. An anchor is simply a stimulus that influence’s your state of mind. For example, no matter how many distractions are around my teenage daughter if her phone lights up she will stop what she is doing and look to see who is reaching out to her (respond to her phone). The stimulus is the phone buzzing, the state of mind is triggered to respond immediately. Remember Pavlov’s dogs? The bell was the neutral stimulus that when associated with food caused salivation (conditioned response) in the dog. Anchoring is simply associating a neutral stimulus with a desired state of mind.   Recently I went to Costa Rica and in the evenings I would watch spectacular sunsets. Feeling a deep sense of gratitude (emotion) and inner calm (emotion) I lightly tapped on my thymus (located … Continue reading

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Shake it Off   Everything in nature shakes it off…why don’t we?       Your ability to shake things off, experience less stress and show up with confidence, is in direct proportion to the systems you have in place daily that support inner peace and purpose.   Story: A hose with 1 leak diminishes the force by which it comes out and waters the flowers.   What are your energy leaks? Understand the leaks that drain your emotional bandwidth to be able to handle life successfully.   Don’t allow the opinions of other people to rob your sense of worth and capability. Pause and reflect on how much head space is taken up worrying about what other people think. The Drug of Approval robs your ability to occupy your space…you are not created to occupy other people’s space. Step away from needing the approval of those around you in order to show case your God given gifts and talents in this world. When you are envious and jealous it’s as if you are saying: YOU have something I need in order to feel enough; capable; valued; successful…what’s your vice? Release the negative loop that puts things above people and … Continue reading

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Release your attempts at mind-reading when connecting with other people in your life. Mind reading wreaks havoc in relationships. This happens when you believe you know what another person is thinking or feeling without direct communication from this person. I see you as I am not as you are so in order to see you for you it is essential that I step away from my perspectives. Mind reading wreaks havoc in relationships at work and at home. We take in information from our environment and then we filter the data through our assumptions and conclusions which fuel our beliefs and ultimately our actions. Harvard professor Chris Argyris refers to this process on The Ladder of Inference, a conclusion reached based on evidence and reasoning. The blocks in this process lie in missing pieces of vital information which when recovered provide a fuller model of reality.   Mind reading flows from our desire to connect yet too often creates disconnect because those essential pieces of information are missing. Mind reading is similar to the story of the 3 blind men describing a different part of an elephant. In and of themselves, the descriptions hold truth yet the totality of the situation … Continue reading

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How to Make Decisions Easy: What do you value most in life? People experience a lot of stress over making everyday decisions. When you are trying to make a decision, you are focusing on your options: “Am I going to do this or that? Which one am I going to choose?” Your decision will become clear when you connect your options to your priorities and to what you value most in this life. It’s similar to the exercise when you lose something and start to look everywhere in a panic to find what you lost. When you slow down and retrace your steps, you usually find that item. Frustration and anxiety often come when the things you do in life conflict with your priorities. If family is a priority, and you continue to get business calls after hours, anxiety will build. Oftentimes, you just plow through the anxiety, you take the call, and your children quietly go upstairs. You miss the opportunity to connect and honor one of your priorities in life, resulting in frustration and anxiety. The key factor here is to become aware of your priorities. What is important to you in life? What do you value most? … Continue reading

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  A Tip to Release Procrastination Anxiety Can you imagine the space cleared up in your mind by simply taking small action steps forward on those projects in your life now rather than later? Procrastination often walks hand and hand with a fear of failure, not measuring up or getting our desired results. The following excerpt is taken from the recent Amazon Best Seller: 5 Minutes to Stress Relief, by Lauren E Miller     Mental muck around the not-getting-to-it rut To procrastinate in life is to create unnecessary stress in your body. How many times have you put off something that you don’t want to do, yet you feel that you need to do it, such as paying taxes or bills, making sales calls, confronting relationship issues, organizing your home or work space, or creating your next speech, book, presentation, or business plan? Are any of these situations familiar? What do you put off in your life that you feel you need to do in order to keep things running smoothly or to expand and move your next project forward? Why do you keep pushing back the next step towards accomplishing your desired goal? Good question, right? Perhaps you … Continue reading