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  This Season Be the Grinch Who Restored Christmas vs the One Who Stole it… Have you ever cringed when you saw another person experience pain? Have you ever been moved to tears because you have watched another person going through suffering? We actually are biologically wired for empathetic responses along with the ability to read and respond to other people’s emotions. Mirror neurons were discovered in the 1990s by Neuroscientist Giacomo Rizzzolatti, MD, they imitate the actions and emotions of other people. They are brilliantly designed to help us empathize and understand along with learning.   This is why we imitate positive or negative emotions that we ourselves observe in other people. Basically we have the ability to evoke an emotional response in other people positive or negative.   This is a powerful insight worth our attention in that it reminds us of our ability to evoke feelings and emotions in those around us. Your attitude will either create positive connection with those in your circle of influence or negate it and the choice is yours. How you choose to show up emotionally in a relationship literally impacts the connection you will experience…positive or negative. In NLP they refer to … Continue reading

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    How to Recognize Pride vs. A Prideful Nature:   Placebo True Pride:   True pride that has its way in you is unable to hear and respond to the voice of humility.  Therefore it has an insatiable desire to dominate, be seen, acknowledged & recognized.   This pride gets easily frustrated & anger flares up when it’s plans are thwarted and people stand in its way of getting what it wants.   It is fueled by unbridled ambition that puts things before people.  The non-essential before the essential, and will do anything, often void of moral conscious, to get what it wants.   This pride is like a spoiled child and is seldom content or deeply satisfied…always wanting more.   A Spiritually Discerning Person with a Prideful Nature:   Know this: Even as a human being seeking to love, serve and honor God you will experience prideful flare-ups.   The difference between a person who lives in service of pride and one who seeks to put God’s ways of love and service first and experiences occasional moments of prideful flare-ups is this:   As soon as pride shows up the spiritually discerning person will feel the burn of whatever action, … Continue reading

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Procrastination can keep you from implementing a high powered project.  The next time you feel like resisting taking a step forward towards completing your project stop and consider organizing one corner of your office space or 3 files that are associated with the project you are working on. Fragmentation due to disorganization leads to procrastination. When you take a step in the direction of organization around a project, even if it is a small corner of organization, you will find that you create simplicity. Simplicity leads to clarity of focus, and clarity of focus leads to action based living. Remember the last stress relief tip addressed a popular program that is often associated with procrastination: In order to accept myself I need to be perfect, I am resisting taking a step towards completing this project for fear of possible rejection, by myself or those around me.  Perfectionism and procrastination often walk hand in hand.  Reflect on this statement: I am willing to accept myself and honor my unique creativity with or without accomplishing this project. You will find you often release new energy to move forward when you remember you are OK just as you are, “What would you dare … Continue reading

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A Conqueror’s Mindset   “A Man is enslaved to whatever has mastered him.” 2 Peter: 2:19   What is enslaving you this week? Unfinished projects? An unkind response you received this week? Fear? Doubt? Worry? Needing to know how things will turn out? Illness? Physical challenges?   Whatever we choose to give power to blocks our ability to see life as it truly is, creating an impoverished view of reality. Be very careful at the choice of energy & focus you give to outer circumstance.   When we give more power to that which exists outside of us versus what dwells within us we become vulnerable to rising and falling depending on outer feedback and situations.    For example, fear (doubt & worry) is created by the power  we give to outside circumstance to define our ability to  successfully handle that which is before us.   If God is with us, who or what can be against us? Only our choice of focus can determine our ability to resurrect triumphant success or a paralyzing perspective of worry, doubt and fear. Now Pause breathe in the Holy Spirit and exhale any self doubt Today, Dear God,   Help me to remember You are for … Continue reading

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Release your attempts at mind-reading when connecting with other people in your life. This happens when you believe you know what another person is thinking or feeling without
direct communication from this person. If you act on assumptions rather than information, as is the case in mind reading, you take valuable information for granted and often times
create a dis-connect. If you’re wondering why someone says or does something then ask for clarity rather than assuming you know why they did what they did, or said what they said. Their response may not make sense with your model of the world yet it will give you the opportunity to see things from another person’s life experience and create transparent communication. Don’t forget, your greatest teachers in this life are often times those who push your buttons. Side Note: Irritations in life flow from our need for control; When we need to be in control in order to feel safe we get easily irritated. Irritations are self oriented and based on our need for control. Take the 30 Day, 3 Min a Day Cultivate Healthy Relationships: Click Here to a Watch Preview Want More Quick Stress Relief Tips & Inspiration when You want it? Join Me & The … Continue reading

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  Your mind is making thousands of associations as you travel throughout your day. You have the ability to choose the associations made in your mind. I invite you to wake up and expand your ability to hunt and gather information from your time line that contradicts any impoverished view of reality that may have a grip on you today. This technique is particularly powerful when it comes to shifting your perception around your abilities and talents. A good friend of mine reminded me of this truth earlier this week as he said, “Your life expands or contracts in proportion to your courage lived.”  Courage fuels self-confidence in that it is the ability to move forward in the face of any self doubt or fear. Action Call: When you find yourself experiencing any sense of shrinking back from life, resurrect a moment from your past when you felt strong, confident and capable. Close your eyes and allow yourself to drop into that memory: what did you look like, feel like, sound like (your intonation) when you experienced feeling confident? Remember, the conscious mind does not recognize the difference between imaginative thought and reality when the senses are activated. Resurrect YOU … Continue reading

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Breast Cancer Awareness Month => A Big Shout Out to my Brothers & Sisters who Have Learned the Art of Storm Dancing I was diagnosed with advanced cancer in 2006 and told I had a 50 percent chance of survival one week prior to my final divorce court date. My business was, and is, empowering people worldwide to live life without stress and the “how to” skills to create happy/healthy life styles. So, here I was facing two of the top stressors in life. WOW! What an amazing schoolhouse of opportunity to practice what I had been learning and teaching for 20 years! In less than two years I experienced a divorce, a double mastectomy, 12 surgeries, 16 rounds of chemo, one year of Herceptin® infusions, six weeks of daily radiation and a blood staph infec­tion. I have no feelings of victimization in any of this because it truly led to an amazing connection with all of humanity… we all have our “dark night of the soul” experiences and how we choose to respond to them makes ALL the difference in the outcome! So what did I learn? I’m not my breasts. I’m not my hair. When I connect to … Continue reading