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  Addictions and cravings in life have many different faces yet the same result: they block your ability to choose your response to life and your ability to remain connected to your authentic self as connected to God (you before all of the pain and false beliefs kicked in). According to Webster, an addiction is to give oneself over to a strong habit and a craving is too long for something eagerly. “I need to have this thing, outcome or person in order to feel relief, calm or momentary peace within” is a common thought linked to addictions and cravings in life. Honoring the physiological component of a craving is also an important ingredient to overcoming the “eagerly longing for” moments in life. Low serotonin levels have been linked to physical challenges including migraines, depression, lack of concentration and insomnia. Your body makes serotonin from tryptophan. Where do you get tryptophan? Sugars/Carbohydrates…not a good choice and the results often time are more cravings… “I can’t just have one Oreo cookie, I need to devour the entire sleeve!”… Of course you do, sugar is addicting, as are carbs. Don’t stress yourself out when you observe this kind of behavior in your … Continue reading

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Effective communication is in direct relationship to systems that support understanding and the ability to see ideas, information and experiences from another person’s point of view without judgement and the need to control. Giving another human being the space to be who they are with their unique experience, beliefs and insights they have gained on their journey of life, allows for growth and opportunity to create collaboratively. When we assume or expect that another person should see things the way we see things along with jumping to conclusions based on our assumptions we twist our ability to step into effective communication (Mind Reading). Our greatest strength to connect with another person lies in our ability to ask questions which bring about a more expansive understanding around the information being transferred through the spoken word; body language; emotion and intonation. Release your attempts at mind-reading when connecting with other people in your life. This happens when you believe you know what another person is thinking or feeling without direct communication from this person. I see you as I am not as you are so in order to see you for you it is essential that I step away from my perspectives. … Continue reading

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The following excerpt is taken from Award Winning Best Seller: 5 Minutes to Stress Relief, by Lauren E Miller Mental muck around the not-getting-to-it rut To procrastinate in life is to create unnecessary stress in your body. How many times have you put off something that you don’t want to do, yet you feel that you need to do it, such as paying taxes or bills, making sales calls, confronting relationship issues, organizing your home or work space, or creating your next speech, book, presentation, or business plan? Are any of these situations familiar? What do you put off in your life that you feel you need to do in order to keep things running smoothly or to expand and move your next project forward? Why do you keep pushing back the next step towards accomplishing your desired goal? Good question, right? Perhaps you might say, “If I knew the answer to that, I wouldn’t be reading this chapter!” Let’s take a look at a few possible reasons why you procrastinate or put things off that you feel you need to do yet don’t do, and the more you don’t do them, the more pressure and stressed out you feel, … Continue reading

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Perhaps you are familiar with the commonly referenced scripture from 1 Timothy 6:10: “for the love of money is the root of all evil.” I propose that it is not so much the green paper that causes the reference to evil as it is the harmful desires that are often unleashed in the pursuit of the almighty dollar. Three questions continue to emerge to the front lines of life satisfaction: Who am I? Why am I here? And What will it matter? I have seen in my short life, a man who had all the riches in the world and experienced such a deep sense of disconnection and lack of value that he took his own life. I have also seen a man who had just enough to get by each day yet had such a deep interior awareness of who he was, why he was here and why he mattered that his joy was contagious to all who found themselves in his presence. It is not what we do or produce that unleashes life satisfaction, it is who we are while we do what we do that bring about life enjoyment and satisfaction. The following negative attributes often flow … Continue reading

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How to Flip from Competition into Collaboration: Chances are, if you are still wearing your earth suit you have encountered an overtly unhappy human being.  Perhaps the display of unhappiness comes in their intonation, body language and/or choice of words.  Much of our instinct to fight, run or freeze flows from an innate desire to be liked, right and understood: “I feel safe when I feel that you understand where I am coming from and validate my perspectives and input.” As you explore seeking to understand more consistently within your conversations through curiosity and fascination you will find that you have the ability to flip a space from one of competition to one of collaboration.   Learning how to flip from competition into collaboration shifts the entire energy within a room and physiologically opens up the brain’s ability to access valuable pieces of information that are all too often deleted, distorted or generalized in the mind muck that occurs in the ring of competition, it is an inner game worth learning the skill set needed for success in life. Understand that when people find themselves in an Animal Planet moment, kicking and screaming their way through the day, it is … Continue reading

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3 Tips to Help You Shake It Off In Africa and other cultures, shaking therapy is used for emotional healing. Literally shaking off your perceived emotional threat: fear; self-doubt; worry. Imagine a duck in the water. The water simply beads up on the ducks feathers and then flung into the air after a good shake. Almost every creature in the animal kingdom shakes it off. Take the zebra for example. The lioness jumps on the zebra’s backside pulling the zebra to the ground, followed by a quick shake and the zebra runs off, we have the God given ability to do the same; however we all too often stay down and get devoured by our perceived threat in life rather than standing back up and shaking it off. Try it. Next time you find yourself emotional spun by what someone else said or didn’t say or a specific situation that side swipes you in life find some good open space, imagine the irritation beading up on your body and start shaking it off from your feet all the way up to the top of your head. Most of the time when I use this technique I end up flipping my … Continue reading

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Your RAS: What is it? Your RAS is an essential system in your body you need to know about as it is responsible for behavioral motivation and more. The system that is either your best friend or worst enemy and you get to choose the outcome. Have you ever noticed when you are interested in something like a certain car, a piece of clothing or a specific goal that you tune into it everywhere? This is because of your Reticular Activating System (RAS), the part of your brain located in the brainstem that controls many important functions, including breathing, heartbeats and tuning into what you really want in life. It pulls information from the background noise of life that is congruent with the messages it receives from your conscious mind. For example, if you are in a packed restaurant waiting for your name to be called, your RAS will block out the background noise and help you to tune into your name. Whatever you focus on in life grows bigger, be it positive or negative. The RAS aligns itself with what you believe about yourself: your capabilities and feelings of inadequacy. It is the physiological element behind Henry Ford’s statement: … Continue reading