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            How to Have More Happiness:     Learn => Reflect => Identify & Adjust => Integrate => Act     Happiness walks hand in hand with our ability to make a meaningful positive contribution in daily life. Have you ever jumped into your day with great intentions to show up with the best version of you only to be sabotaged by the first thing that slows you down in life? Perhaps it’s a car that cuts you off; an employee that that disagrees with your proposed plan; your dog who happened to get sick all night; a friend who starts to use you as a dumping ground; a teenager who slams the door in your face.   Thank God, that God sees us for who we DESIRE to be rather than how our behavior shows up. Let’s explore a helpful technique that will assist us in our ability to hold our personal field in a place that honors the person we are committed to being. The person that we would like to be remembered by. Happiness arises when we align our actions with the person we are committed to being. Too often we allow … Continue reading

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Loss Leads to Perspective   A great loss leaves a great gift behind: Instant perspective on all that is truly important in this life. Craig Morgan has written a country song that speaks to this experience, “This Ain’t Nothin’.” The lyrics contain a conversation between a reporter and a man who just lost his home in a tornado. The man says losing his home is nothing compared to the loss of the ones he loved during his lifetime.   As with all challenges, many of which are out of your control, you ALWAYS have the choice to grow in the ways of wisdom in the midst of it all. The result is “the peace that passes all human understanding.” This kind of peace can only be obtained through the experiences of passing through great loss or tribulation. It gives you the opportunity to let go, accept what is and appre­ciate all that is essential, authentic and good in life. This is a process of life changing healing.   After you obtain a perspective of the essential things in life, you may find that onlookers of your uncommon peace will ask with curiosity, “How can you remain so calm about this, … Continue reading

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3 Relationship Busters to Avoid:   To connect or not, the choice is yours. You come into the world with a certain personality and emotional acuity. Life happens, including different perspectives and responses. The problem occurs when familiar reactive responses override your desire to create positive connections with people you care about. A relationship is a state in which you connect with another person. Our goal in relationships we care about is to create meaningful connection as often as possible. Sometimes it is simply a matter of shifting our intonation from one that is hard to one that is tender and kind.   When you are in a heated discussion with another person often times you ignite your primal brain, which paralyzes your ability to access creative solution based thinking along with igniting stress hormones in the body.   Open-minded thinking shuts down as soon as you feel attacked in a conversation. Your ability to truly listen is swallowed up with an unbridled focus to protect your position in the argument at all costs. When flipped into the limbic brain due to feelings of threat you only have three choices of response: fight, flight or flee. The following behaviors will … Continue reading

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  Learn => Reflect => Identify & Adjust => Integrate => Act     Identity: How Not to Care What People Think in 2017:   …Or better worded: how to release your attachment to other people’s opinions and reactions. Let’s face it we care way too much about what other people think. Be honest here, how much of what spins you out of peace in your life is directly linked to another person’s opinion or reaction to you? 50%? 75%? 99.9%?   Can you imagine freeing up that mind space to explore solutions and create what you are here to create in earth school? Our vice of thinking about what people think about us can be released by simply doing this one thing: releasing the drug of approval. Many of you have heard me speak on this crazy addiction, which has held us all back from personal excellence way too many times in our lives.   The drug of approval is fueled by too much concern on our part around how we are perceived by people around us. Jealousy, envy and below the line behavior twists our mind and robs us of inner peace and is the direct result of … Continue reading

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CO BIZ MAGAZINE: Published January 2017   Lights on Leadership is leadership driven from the inside out verses the outside in. As a youth, my favorite author was Leo Buscaglia. My room was filled with his uplifting quotes. A few of the following still carry me forward in life:   “Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”   “Change is the end result of all learning.”   “A person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn feel, grow or love. Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom. Only the person who risks is truly free.”   Are you a leader in life? Perhaps you waver in your response as the words pop up in your mind, “Well, I think so, I would like to think so…it depends on your definition of leader.” A spirit driven leader in life is one who moves from the inside out verses the … Continue reading

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  Learn => Reflect => Identify & Adjust => Integrate => Act   2 Questions to Ask Yourself When You are Emotionally Spun:   Let’s face it, life does not always show up the way we want it to. Our greatest place of empowerment lies in our ability to hold our own personal field in spite of the antics that take place in our near field.     Our personal field consists of our choice of response to situations. It is everything that resides inside our interior castle: our connection with the Holy Spirit, our perceptions, conclusions, assumptions and judgments about life. We are the director in the personal field or the landlord of our thoughts, this is the space of free will, by your choice of perspective (assumptions, conclusions and judgments) you direct how your body will respond…in fight, flight freeze OR in creative choices and solution based responses. You get to choose if life is for you or against you in your personal field.     Your near field consists of your relationships with those around you…those situations that exist outside of your personal field. This is where your choice of response manifests outside of you. For example, … Continue reading

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Do you want more meaning in life?   Try this: A Practice for More Meaning in Life   Appreciative inquiry is the practice of reflection which allows more time to pause and ponder the moments that unfold before you, including your choice of response. In this pause you are able to reflect on the pieces which support and expand the person you want to be and the meaning you gain from circumstance. Too often we are so busy doing that we neglect the power of the pause. The pause allows us to reflect on what we are doing and ask if what we are doing aligns with the person we are committed to being.   Similar to a puzzle with many pieces. It is easy to exert effort as you attempt to make a piece fit into the last corner of a puzzle only to realize after reflection that it is a piece from another puzzle. How many times have you stuck with an old behavior simply because it was familiar to you rather than pausing to ask: Does this behavior support the highest version of who I am in this world? What could I do to release this behavior … Continue reading