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How do you handle conflict? When you find yourself face to face with an opposing viewpoint than another person how do you react?   What is your go-to reaction when you are in the midst of conflict? Do you run and hide (avoid the conflict)? Perhaps you jump in the “ring” determined to win? Maybe you abandon your ship, letting go of your own ideas, beliefs and values in order to keep the peace no matter what? Do you implode? Explode? or both at the same time? The clash of the viewpoints conflict “movie clip” from your time line is one that often has a common theme when it comes to your choice of response in the midst of conflict.   How many times in a day do you experience conflict? Studies have revealed that the average person experiences 5 conflicts a day. This is an examination of consciousness that can offer some awesome opportunities for an interior tune up when it comes to personal excellence. Do your conflicts share a common emotional theme: I’m overlooked? Not enough? Under-appreciated? Mis-understood?   As is the case with any positive outcome in life, reflection and preparation are two practices that increase your … Continue reading

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  “Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland.” Isaiah 43:18-19   Let go of your grip on your past desert and wasteland so that your hands and heart will be open to receive the refreshment that comes with the choice to begin again with God, celebrating the uniqueness of God’s creative, loving Spirit that is your natural state of being…shake the desert and waste land off, look up to the right (access the creative part of the brain) and ask for what you want…believe that when you ask for what you want and it is aligned with those things of God…beauty, love, all things praise worthy, integrous, above reproach…you will receive that which you ask for…enjoy celebrating another gift of life today.   Too Often your subconscious mind is playing programs from your past that hold you back from stepping into the person God calls you to be NOW. One of my favorite quotes from The Passion takes place when Jesus has fallen when carrying the cross, Mary, … Continue reading

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How do you trust when you are scared?   What are you afraid of today?   Is there something you really want to happen in your life and you are afraid that it won’t?   Do you feel scared because of something someone said about you and you are worried that a rumor might start to spread? Afraid that you won’t be able to handle the response or reaction of someone you need to confront or set a healthy boundary with?   Perhaps it’s your health. I can relate to this one, any time I have the slightest ache or pain in my body, the serpent of fear slithers into my mind and twists my thoughts as I plunge into the dark whole of: “Oh no, my body is going to betray me again!”   Fear walks hand in hand with anger and frustration. There is always the element of fear behind an outburst of anger. Next time you are angry ask yourself what you are afraid of…not getting something you want or think you deserve? Fear that your best efforts are not enough to get you where you want to go?   Fear also has a wicked little sous-chef … Continue reading

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  Spirit Driven Leadership is marked by the ability to control the tongue, creating space for wisdom and discernment to drop in before responding.   Most of what frustrates us in life revolves around a deep desire to be right and understood. This desire can be so intense at times that in spite of evidence that is contrary to our conclusion concerning a situation, we will actually delete, distort or generalize information that does not align with our position, even if we could benefit from another’s perspective and life experience. We step out of reality and into story. Studies have revealed that the majority of what we think up in our mind when it comes to assuming what others are thinking is not based in reality.   What lies behind our desire to be right, to have the last word or to at least have another person acknowledge the validity of our position or perspective? People that push our buttons are our greatest teachers in life because they reveal to us where we are stuck. Perhaps within our emotional interior landscape, the fertilizer of EGO fuels the growth of our frustration? See ME, understand ME, and validate ME so that … Continue reading

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  Perhaps you have heard me mention that you are the landlord of your mind. As we SPRING into the season of new growth and renewal it is a valuable reflection to pause and wonder how many tenants are we giving free rent to that need to be cleaned out of our mind and habits.   Want more patience in your life this spring? Evict the tenant that suffers from “not-enoughness” and lives in the space of entitlement. Replace the LARGE room that impatience took up with the tenants of endurance, humility and temperance.   Want more confidence? Evict the tenant that is addicted to the drug of approval and who feeds on an insatiable desire to hear from others that it is enough in life. Give it’s room over to more of the Holy Spirit, which has so much self regard that it chooses to travel invisibly through our lives.   Want more joy? Evict the tenant whose prayers are focused on self gratification and fulfillment of it’s own desires and goals and replace it’s space with gratitude and service of those in need. For our greatest joy lies in the measure through which we serve.   How about … Continue reading

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Expanded on from Source: Colorado Biz Magazine, 2014 =>   What is rumination?   One of my favorite definitions can be found on Wikipedia, which describes rumination as “compulsively focused attention on symptoms of one’s distress and on its possible causes and consequences as opposed to its solutions.”   Rumination flows from an unsatisfied state of being and is often fueled by our self -judgments due to unmet goals or perceived failures in life. Remember, failure is simply a label we place on undesirable outcomes.   Ruminating is something we do in our mind over past negative events that evoke undesirable feelings and emotions. Cows ruminate. They chew their “cud” and swallow it only to spit it back up and chew on it some more. Cows actually need to chew on their food twice in order to digest it. They can spend up to eight hours each day chewing on their cud.   So my question to you this week worth exploration is simple: How many hours a day do you spend chewing on your cud? What percentage of your focused attention is spent on past events and possible causes and consequences, occupying precious mind space you could be using … Continue reading

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Are you living a large portion of your life frustrated? The solution lies in the above video: STOP IT! Stress is the power YOU give to outside circumstance to define your worth, value and capability. Much of what spins you out of inner peace and confidence flows from the power you give to circumstance and situations. Granted the element of PTSD is a serious biological and emotional reactive response to trauma and thus requires attention and solution: Energy Psychology modalities offer sustainable solutions: CLICK HERE to explore. What I explore in this blog has to do with daily frustration that all too often robs us of the best version of who we want to be in life. When we are frustrated we are usually operating from the lymbic brain which only offers us 3 choices of response: run from the situation (avoidance), fight (bullying, ugly talk) or freeze (stone walling behaviors). Let’s face it, we have an innate desire to be seen, acknowledged and recognized which all too often flips us out of inner confidence and throws us into a whirlwind of frustration and stress. Can you imagine waking up tomorrow morning without any head trash of distraction around the … Continue reading