1 Thing to Dilute Ugly Behavior
Resist the urge to allow the bad behavior of another to spin you out of good character this beautiful holiday season: love; joy; peace; patience; kindness; goodness; gentleness and self-control.
One way to dilute the ugly behavior of those around you is to
simply offer generous assumptions around their actions.
Practice seeing and responding to others the way you desire to
be seen and responded to. In NLP they refer to this
practice as eliciting states of behavior. As you commit to standing
firm in the good character you desire to embody in
relationships you can actually lift up the negative energy
of those around you. Love evokes more love; kindness evokes more
kindness.
Grace is an essential ingredient
in the process. Simply put, grace is a gift given and not
deserved. It supports the practice of seeing
people for who they desire to be rather than how their
behavior shows up…is this not how we all desire to be received?
Whenever you are in the “HALT“…and add an “S” on the end:
hungry; angry; lonely; tired; sick the person you are committed to being
becomes highly compromised. This is why self-care is so essential. You can
not give out that which you withhold from yourself. In the midst
of the demands and to-do lists make it a priority to refresh,
reflect and restore YOU.
Take 10-15 minutes each day to sit in silent prayer; unplug and
reflect on those things that you perhaps overlook on a busy day
yet when recalled offer you instant refreshment, purpose, meaning and focus.
Too often we spend more time living outside of ourselves than we do inside
ourselves. This is an awareness that hits deeply when facing hardship in
that we realize in those acute moments of being “out of control” that our
greatest place of strength lies within our interior world. I remember this
clear minded awareness washing over me when I was told my time on
earth could be limited. Daily prayer and meditation has been
proven highly beneficial for the entire body as it:
- Activates your parasympathetic nervous system: branch of your peripheral nervous system that helps your body return to a calm, relaxed state after the threat of danger, or even daily stress, has passed. When this area is activated, your body can naturally rejuvenate, repair, and rebuild itself.
- Slows your respiration down for longer, deeper breaths. Slows the production of the stress hormone cortisol which boosts your immune system.
Give God more authority than you do fear, doubt and worry.
This requires your attention and present observation. Those who sit
in silence before God behind closed doors are more equipped to maintain
good character in the midst of ugly behavior. This is a rejuvenating practice
which yields powerful results. Sweet sleep comes
when you occupy the space of the person you are committed
to being in your words; thoughts; deeds and actions more
today than yesterday.
When you take time to fill up within, you are more
equipped to offer generous assumptions to those
around you. Remember how your good character
becomes compromised in the midst of lack of sleep; stress;
and theHALT(hungry; angry; lonely; tired…sick)? Show
the kindness you would like to receive in the midst of your
ugly behavior moments.
Offering generous assumptions begins within you, inside
your interior castle. Be kind to yourself when you are physically,
emotionally and spiritually spent…God is. See yourself as you
desire toberather than how your ugly self talk depicts.
As quickly as possible return to a place
of kind, supportive inner self talk, pray for the grace to see yourself
as God sees you, the the person you are committed to being.
Take care of your bodily needs. Stress is your body’s invitation to
identify and adjust your perceptions of life along with your self care
systems. Self care, including daily prayer, is the ultimate gift that keeps
on giving to you and those around you.
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