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Inner peace returns as you expand the gap between what happens outside of you and your choice of response to it. “For God did not give us a spirit of fear but of POWER, Love & Self-Control.” 1 Timothy 1:7   One of my favorite reminders of who I am in this world comes from the above verse in 1 Timothy 1:7.  Let’s dismantle this a little to give it more clarity of focus thus increasing our ability to put it into daily action.   First of all, know what you are and what you are not. This releases inner anxiety instantly:   You are a child of God, possessing the blue print of the creator of the universe flowing through your spirit that is beyond all momentary troubles and tribulations.  Your spirit knows itself to be enough, capable and victorious at all times even in the eye of the storm. Simply put, you are first and foremast a spiritual being having a physical experience, as proclaimed by the Christian mystics throughout history.     You are not your circumstance; judgments from yourself and others; traumatic situations; rejection; fear; doubt or worry…unless you choose to believe you are in which case the spirit … Continue reading

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          Much of your anxiety in family relationships flows from your inner list of requirements that connect you to your ‘tribe’. You connect with the tribe when you follow the tribal rules, many of which are unspoken. When you feel that you fall short of connecting to your tribe and honoring the tribal codes, anxiety begins to quickly grow. Perhaps it is as simple as when your family gathers for Sunday dinner and one Sunday night you have plans. A common emotional response may be guilt—and all participants have their role in it.   Guilt is a tribal tool that many families use to control their members… watch out for it because it serves no one and when you allow yourself to react to it, you become an enabler to this unhealthy behavior. When you give yourself permission to move in a different direction than your tribe, you may experience protest. However, when you choose to be a seeker of truth within and around you, peace will eventually return—and in most cases with the tribe members as well.   Remember, whatever a member of your family says or does is not a personal attack on you, … Continue reading

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          “A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.” Proverbs 15:1     Have you ever found yourself in a storm of ugly behavior? Resist the urge to allow the bad behavior of another to spin you out of good character this beautiful holiday season: love; joy; peace; patience; kindness; goodness; gentleness and self-control. Mastering control over your urge to respond with a behavior what does not support the best version of you is your greatest practice for personal excellence and leadership in this world.     Three common responses are often used in those animal planet spins in life when we feel overlooked, underappreciated or misunderstood: ugly talk; stone walling and defensive behavior. One way to dilute the ugly behavior of those around you is to simply offer generous assumptions around their actions.     Practice seeing and responding to others the way you desire to be seen and responded to. In NLP they refer to this practice as eliciting states of behavior. As you commit to standing firm in the good character you desire to embody in relationships you can actually lift up the negative energy of those around you. Love evokes more love; … Continue reading

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How to Have a Productive Day:   Start Your Day on Your Knees: Pray, meditate on the type of person you are committed to being: what you look like, feel like and sound like. Rather than asking God to bless your plans invite the experience of surrender: “May it be done to me according to your will. ” Luke 1:38 Knowing your deepest sense of purpose and meaning flow when you are aligned with the purpose for which God woke you up to occupy. “Dear God, what is my give back project today?” Your greatest joy comes in the measure through which you serve. Be still and listen. Jeremiah 29:11. I follow with a 15-20 min. light/sound therapy at least 3 days a week.     Drink “Wake Well” within the first hour, to flip Your AM Cortisol Dump into serotonin support: healthy heart; lower stress, inflammation and brain support. Move for 5-10 Min. after taking Wake Well (I will usually do jumping jacks, dance or kick…Do what feels good to you and do it quickly for 1 min/rest for 1 min and repeat 3-6 times: Burst Training).  Follow with a healthy breakfast, shake which includes a piece of lemon with the peel, kale, black … Continue reading

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              On my iphone message I remind callers that stress is the power they give to outside circumstance to define their worth; value and capability. I follow up with an invitation to take it back today. Take back the power I give to my circumstance? Whaaaat? How can I take something back that I don’t even know I gave?   As a second degree black belt (World Tae Kwon Do Federation) I was trained to keep my sense of strength and talent contained within me so I could stand outside of my opponents advances and respond in a manner that honored my skillset. By doing this I was able to move with quick anticipation around my opponents next move rather than reactive behavior. The same holds true in the ring of life. When someone says something or does something outside of you, you have an instant opportunity to guard your heart and remember that the strength within you is greater than circumstance.   As Proverbs 4:23 reminds us: “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Including your choice of response to people and situations outside of you.  Simply … Continue reading

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A Self-Image Thief  You Run Into Every Day:   Some cultures believe that the mirror actually robs the soul of its authentic view of self.   After the double mastectomy, I covered my mirrors for one week. I wanted to give myself time to ground my perception of me in God before having any distraction that may cause me to forget who I truly am. I remember the moment those sheets came down. I stood before myself as I surveyed the amputation. I stood bald and breastless, unable to connect to the former physi­cal appearance I had once labeled “me”. As my son said, I looked like someone from Star Wars.   In the midst of the removal of my physical appearance, I was given the opportunity to see me once again. In an instant, I realized two truths that flowed from the French mystic priest, Teilhard de Chardin: “I’m acutely aware of my own mortality. So what do you do with that awareness? Love others, love yourself. Have a relationship with God.” Along with: “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human expe­rience.”   As you remember that you are a … Continue reading

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How to Lead for Success in Life I stood in the ring at the Colorado World Tae Kwon Do State Championship, facing my opponent, who happened to be eight years younger than me, my mind racing around in an attempt to remember the training I had received to succeed in this moment. One particular remembrance lead to a victory medal: when your opponent stands before you, shift your focus to the space around them, in this way you will be able to utilize all available options for movement along with pathways to flip any attack into positive momentum, revealing the portal through which you can execute your knowledge for a successful outcome. Look through your target to your desired goal in order to unleash your complete strength and technique with accuracy.   How true is this wisdom for excellence in any endeavor we choose to engage in? When we fully occupy our space, aligning our words, thoughts, deeds and actions around our intent for a specific outcome, greater success is the result. Divine gnosis, knowledge that springs forth from within, becomes accessible when we choose to lean our entire personality, gifts and talents into the present moment (fully occupying our … Continue reading