Don’t Let Stress Be the Boss of You
3 Serpents You Want to Evict Today for Peace and Joy
Don’t Let Stress Be the Boss of You:
You have often heard me talk about your position as the landlord of your mind.
In this position you will too often give free rent to specific thoughts that DO NOT support a lighter version of you, I call them serpents. They slither in and choke the life out of you.
These serpents slither into your thoughts and twist your perceptions of reality, distorting, deleting and generalizing specific pieces of information that leave you wallowing in the mud of an impoverished view of reality. Today, I will speak about 3 kinds of behavior that shows up as a result of your unwanted tenants: greed, entitlement and victimization.
These 3 serpents will trash a good intention along with inner peace quicker than poop through a goose. We have a ton of them in Colorado these days so this metaphor is very applicable.
Clarity of focus leads to accuracy of response. As soon as you realize what is really going on you instantly place yourself as the one in control and your thoughts are no longer the BOSS of you.
Greed: fueled by the serpent of not-enoughness. It’s like a spoiled child, the more you feed it the more it wants. The behavior is demanding, pushy, and complaining fueled by dis-satisfaction. The thought is: “I need more to be satisfied, feel accomplished, successful, enough.”
Solution: Grateful living: Dear God, grant me the grace of deep and consistent appreciation for the little things in my life that are actually BIG things overlooked: my ability to breathe, see, hear, walk, talk. Warm water, food, shelter. The ability to love and be loved.
Entitlement: the belief that you deserve better: treatment, attention, accolades. The behavior is at times abrasive, stand offish even snobbish particularly when this serpent is the BOSS of you. The thought is: “I deserve more.” It sucks the peace right out of you replacing it with stress and anxiety.
Solution: Have high noticing around the thought: “I deserve better treatment.” When you spot it crashing your moment quickly replace the thought with a thought that reflects humility. For example, you are driving around the parking lot looking for a spot someone pulls out and the car in front of you quickly takes the space you have been waiting for, as quickly as possible offer up a generous assumption that they may have needed that spot over you. True greatest in this world walks through the archway of humility and service along with your greatest space for joy and thanksgiving.
Victimization: feeling attacked by the world around you. The thought is: “Nothing good ever works out for me, it works out for other people but not for me.” Another popular victimization thought: “It’s not my fault, it’s their fault…The Blame Game.”
It uses universal quantifying statements: Nothing, always, nobody, never. The result is a paralysis when it comes to taking positive action forward and seeking out solutions. Depression and pessimistic thoughts usually accompany victimization. It’s like sleeping with a weighted blanket that is 10X heavier than it should be for your size (my kids got me a weighted blanket that is matched for my size which can actually reduce stress).
Solution: Accountability: being accountable for your life: Forgiving what needs to be forgiven, releasing what needs to be released, taking full responsibility for your own happiness, healing, emotional state of being, physical wellbeing, personal excellence and above all your relationship with God who has given you authority to take back your ability to remember the strength within you is bigger than circumstance.
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