Check out the Let Them Theory
Check Out the Let Them Theory
When was the last time someone did something and it really got under your skin? You couldn’t let it go. Perhaps you created a great story that you kept hitting the reply button on in your mind resulting in another hit of frustration, anger, insecurity or fear. Either way, you were emotionally hijacked.
Mel Robbins has created a fun and easy tool to use that will help you quiet the circuits between your two ears that fuel the emotional flareups in life. She calls itThe Let Them Theory. This theory is going viral, and it’s based on a simple mind shift that has been studied throughout history, yet she makes it very simple:Let Them…meaning, let whoever spins you, do what that do and thenLet You, decide how you want to respond.
Basically, you can’t control what other people are going to do or not do. Much of our emotional hijacks are directly linked to our desire to control what other people do:“I wish they would or would have _______________.” We spend a lot of mental energy trying to figure out why people do what they do or don’t do. Can you imagine waking up tomorrow and that was not even on your mental radar? What would you notice to be different? Much of our stress is directly link to our desire to control people and circumstances in life. Stress increases the more we try to control our circumstances. What if we take all that energy and shift it into figuring out how we want to respond to people and situations?
Stress is the power you give to outside circumstances to define what you believe you are capable of handling successfully. As soon as you make the person or situation BIGGER than your belief that you can handle it, stress will increase.
I recently watched a documentary on Netflix called:The Twister.It was all about the 2011 tornado that wreaked havoc on Joplin Missouri, damaging around 8000 buildings and destroying over 4000 houses. One woman who was in the tornado said that her biggest revelation was that she is not in control. Truth is, we are not in control,God is in control.
We experience counterfeit control,something that poses as authentic with the intention to deceive.As we remember whose ultimately in charge here AND increase our trust and faith in the One who is ultimately in charge here, we can release the grip we have on our desire to control people and circumstances. Mel Robbins reminds us that we have a choice when people push our buttons in life, including family members, to choose how we want to respond. I’d like to add the main element for success in this theory…Let Them (let people do what they do) and thenLet God show mehow He wants me to respond to the situation or person.
You can’t choose what happens to you along this journey of life AND you can always seek God’s wisdom, strength and discernment around how you will respond to a situation. I remember I was distraught over losing my hair during chemo treatments. My counselor reminded me that God always gives us the ability to choose how to respond to undesirable circumstances. After prayerful consideration I chose to set up an appointment with Locks of Love and give my hair away before it all fell out.
Remember, you have a choice every day how you will respond to those life pop-ups that knock you off your horse and leave you mucking around in emotional hijacks.
Lord, help me to do a good job in this situation and honor you in the midst of these strong emotions.
Take Action:
This week keep watch over the people and circumstances that push your buttons. Remember that the people that push your buttons often reveal where you are stuck in life. Turn to God and ask for strength and discernment as to how He wants you to respond. Perhaps He has a seed he wants you to plant or a lesson He wants you to learn.
“Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.”Galatians 1:10
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