How to Release Shame and Guilt
How Your To Release Shame and Guilt
God may forgive your sins but too often your nervous system doesn’t.
Have you ever done something in your life and regretted it? Perhaps you have felt ashamed of your behavior. Have you ever looked back at ugly behavior and said, “I don’t even know who that was”?
When you have experienced an event or situation in your life that does not align with the person you know God has created you to be…the best version of YOU, shame and regret will often start to take up residence within your interior world.
Shame:a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior.
Guilt:a feeling of having done wrong or failed in an obligation.
Shame and guilt are emotional strongholds that can wreak havoc on your sense of meaning and significance, leading to deep seeded feelings of unworthiness and lack of value.
This is why verbal confession is such a powerful practice…to God, a confessor, a therapist, the person you hurt. Taking accountability for behavior you regret offers the opportunity to turn away from the behavior and begin again.
The way the brain works and stores memory can prevent the nervous system from recovering after events that have a strong emotion and a strong visual component. This is why disassociation techniques are so helpful to release the connection of your identity and the negative event.
Readjusting your perception and connection to the negative event using strong visuals can result in release and healing.
Action Step:
The following NLP technique is a powerful method to help dissociate yourself from past painful events that can result in shame and regret:
Take a movie clip from something you are having a hard time letting go of from your past, that evokes some anxiety, shame, guilt, or regret.
Use the modality of your imagination to create a movie clip that expresses the worst possible situation associated with your past pain. Put this on a movie screen and picture yourself watching it in a movie theater play it forwards and backwards in color in less than 5 seconds.
If you experience anxiety watching it then imagine yourself floating out of your body up into the projector room protected by thick glass (double disassociation). Again play your clip forward and backwards quickly, add funny music and then drain the color out of the clip. Now check in with your response to your pending fear or anxiety. If it’s still high then repeat the steps.
At the end of this message you will find a video demonstration of 3 techniques that have been successfully used to help calm the nervous system down. This pause can offer a new beginning around memories that produce feelings of shame and guilt.
This is aphysicaltechnique for release and healing. Your nervous system will continue to fire unless it is rewired. The presence of God within us is the ultimate source for all healing and emotional restoration.
August 2019 New Release: Stop Letting the World Be The Boss of You!
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Personal and Professional Support Resources:
- What is Stress Management Coaching?
- Faith Based Coaching:Edge God In Podcast
- Health Tip from My Journey: Crave Arrest, available on Amazon to help the body remove the dark cloud. This has offered incredible relief for people who I know that suffer from mild depression.
- Audio CD to Help Anchor Positive Behavior in Relationships:
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