How to Fly Higher Than The People Who Peck at You
Fly Higher Than The People Who Peck at You:
My husband always appreciates a deeper look at the metaphors contained in nature and applying them to every day life.Below is one he sent me yesterday, along with the picture above. It has lingered in my mind and heart. Perhaps it will do the same for you:
The only bird that will peck at an Eagle is the crow. He sits on his back and bites his neck. The eagle does not respond or fight with the crow it doesn’t waste time or energy on the crow.
It simply opens its wings and begins to rise higher in the sky .The higher the flight the harder it is for the crow to breathe and then the crow falls due to lack of oxygen.
Stop wasting your time with the crows. Just take them to your heights and they’ll fade.
This is a great reminder to surround yourself with people that fuel your soul. People who offer you the oxygen you need to fly higher.
How do you handle it when people peck at you? Do you peck back or do you you fly higher?
In Sherpa Executive coaching we use a tool called Accountability House, various rooms hold separate aspects of accountability. TheDining Roomholds the people who you are accountable to and for. In order to fly higher in life it is essential to remember that the first person you are accountable to and for is yourself. How you choose to respond to those people who peck at you is your responsibility.
Too often it’s easy to blame and complain. When you catch yourself playing the blame game pause and ask yourself: what part of this do I own. Leave the room and come back with just yourself. Clarity of focus leads to accuracy of response.
Fly higher than the crows of blame and complain as they fuel a bigger crow of victimization which carries with it justification. It sounds like this: “I can’t move on because _________.” “I can’t let this go because if I do then _______________.” “If I forgive them then it justifies what they did.” The only victim in the space of victimization is you. I know first hand as I went through advanced cancer and divorce at the same time with 3 young children.
There where many nights the crows of blaming, complaining and justifying would peck at my mind, robbing me of the sleep needed to fly above and beyond the crows.
The next time you feel attacked by the crows pecking at you, ask yourself a few coaching questions:
- What do I want to remember to fly higher than the crows?
- When was the last time I felt attacked like this? How did I fly higher?
- What part of this situation do I own and what do I want to do about it?
- What available resources to I have to fly higher than this attack? What resources do I need to gather to myself to make it happen?
Let’s look at this from the perspective of the eagle when it comes to available resources. The eagle has the ability to fly higher than the crow and still maintain its cognitive abilities to soar, as do YOU. You simply forget in the midst of the attack and flip into your primal brain where you only have three choices of response: fight, flight or freeze. The eagle simply focuses on the gift it has been blessed with to soar higher than the crows and engages that ability.
Take Action:
Engage the gifts and talents God has blessed you with so that you fly higher than the crows that are currently pecking at you. Tune into a specific behavior that you did the last time you shook off the crows. A behavior that you are accountable for when it comes to engaging that part of you that ignited a specific step forward in a positive direction.
This week I commit to doing less of this behavior_______________.
I commit to doing MORE of this behavior_____________________.
Whether you believe you can or you can’t…you are right, as Henry Ford so brilliantly declared. Whatever you give mental energy to will grow quickly. Whatever you starve of your mental attention will die.
Did you forget a God given talent you have? To fly higher than the crows that peck at you. All things are possible for those who believe. God believes you can…do you?
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