Check Out an Undercover Stress Relief Technique
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Check out an undercover stress relief tip that you can use and nobody will know:
Perhaps you have explored theEFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tutorial videos on my website. You will notice from the videos that this is a technique that is for sure obviously observed by people around you.
So what do you do when the stress response goes from dormant to live and you are surrounded by un-expecting bystanders that have no idea you are stressed and anxious AND you do not want them to know that you are stressed and anxious?
There are a multitude of “under-cover” stress tips that you can implement. Today I’m going to share a mini-version of an 8 step process called EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing technique.
I use EMDR with clients to assist the mental clearing of past pain, trauma, false beliefs and low self-esteem. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), simply put, is the process of desensitizing the negative emotions associated with the “pain/trauma” and reprocessing them into a place of emotional safety.
EMDR was discovered in 1989 by Francine Shapiro…she recommends 8 steps in the process; however, Laurel Parnell has created a 4 step summary process. Pairing the bi-lateral eye movement with the distressing memory or emotion weakens the negative emotional flare up. I personally used this method successfully myself back in 2006 when I was diagnosed with advanced cancer and linked the color red (which was the color of the chemo) to nausea which moved me to learn and use the technique in practice to help those in need. I also use the EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique with clients and NLP. I have found over the past 12 years in practice that each client is unique and what works quickly on some clients does not work on others. I honor the space of the person I am blessed to work with and offer the technique that lands in a good space for that person.
As with each technique I will often explore options understanding that each human being is uniquely wired and at times a variation of a technique will offer a more powerful and effective result.
Below is a very short option of the EMDR process that I have found to be helpful in the midst of a stress storm:
- As soon as you notice the anxiety in your body, quarantine it by asking the following questions: What thought triggered the anxiety? Where do I feel it in my body? What belief am I making about myself that is creating anxiety? Be as specific as possible.
- Ask yourself: What do I want to believe about myself in this moment that will help reduce the negative thought that triggered the anxiety? (If you can’t pinpoint the thought that triggered the anxiety shift your curiosity around a belief you are making about yourself in the moment: I can’t handle this…I’m not safe…I might be rejected etc. NEXT focus on what you WANT to believe about yourself in the moment.
- Close your eyes if you are surrounded by people and move yours eyes slowly back and forth 5-10 times, without moving your head move your eyes all the way to the left and then all the way to the right, back and forth as you tune into the positive thought you want to focus on. During this step you can quickly pull up a moment on your time line when you did feel confident, safe or capable.
- Open your eyes and check in with the anxiety, notice if it has diminished. Repeat until you feel a sense of calm return. You can also, as with all things, bring in your faith as you focus on God’s love, protection and care for you as you repeat the bi-lateral eye movements.
Remember, stress is the power YOU give to outside circumstance to define your worth, value and capability. Take back that power today. The ONE who dwells within you is BIGGER than that which dwells outside of you. Remind your mind of what your soul always knows.
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