How to Make Decisions Easy

How to Make Decisions Easy

An excerpt from Lauren E Miller’s international best seller: 5 Minutes to stress relief explores a simple solution around: How to Make Decisions Easy.

How to Make Decisions Easy: What do you value most in life?

People experience a lot of stress over making everyday decisions. When you are trying to make a decision, you are focusing on your options: “Am I going to do this or that? Which one am I going to choose?”

Your decision will become clear when you connect your options to your priorities and to what you value most in this life. It’s similar to the exercise when you lose something and start to look everywhere in a panic to find what you lost. When you slow down and retrace your steps, you usually find that item.

Frustration and anxiety often come when the things you do in life conflict with your priorities. If family is a priority, and you continue to get business calls after hours, anxiety will build. Oftentimes, you just plow through the anxiety, you take the call, and your children quietly go upstairs. You miss the opportunity to connect and honor one of your priorities in life, resulting in frustration and anxiety.

The key factor here is to become aware of your priorities. What is important to you in life? What do you value most? You only have one life and it goes by fast. Where do you want to spend your time and energy each day? Know what you value and then make time for it each day. Even if you devote just a little time, do it.

When you reflect at the end of the day on the things that moved you, which is a worthwhile practice to connect you within to love and inspiration, clarity will arise around those things you highly value.

Try this practice for three days and record those moments that have lingered in your heart by writing them down, regardless of whether or not they produce a positive or negative charge in your body.

Day 1—These events moved me today:

Day 2—These events moved me today:

Day 3—These events moved me today:

As you practice tuning consciously into those things that move you, you will be able to notice more of what moves you throughout your days. You are only bumped within (i.e., inspired or vexed) when the event has triggered something of value to you, such as your reputation, your ability to connect with others, or your experience as a parent, spouse, or friend.

Remember that those things you value most in life more often than not flow from your experience of connection along with your feelings of safety—or lack of it—within those connections: with God, yourself, and those around you. Reflect for a moment on what you value most in life.

This will give you the opportunity to reflect upon those areas that may have become distorted due to fear and false beliefs, which are usually fueled by the “I will love and accept myself when…” way of thinking.

Imagine you believe that you have already made it in this life and that you are loved and accepted by God, just as you are. How would imagining that help you remember what you truly value in this life?

Pull from your previous recordings the moments that moved you, and caused you to stop, linger, listen, and look. Write down—with no judgment—what you observe to be important to you in life. Release all sense of what you feel that you should value and have a moment of ruthless honesty.

  • “What do I value most in life?”

Make this list your screen saver and reflect upon your words daily.

The above excerpt is taken from Lauren E Miller’s Best Seller: 5 Minutes to Stress Relief, published by Career Press/New Page Books in over 7 countries.


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