2 Questions that Block Forward Progress

Have you ever stayed awake at night, your mind churning around one of the following two questions? or perhaps both? These are 2 questions that block forward progress in life.

1. Why did things happen as they did?

2. How is this situation going to turn out?

The need to know why things happen as they do and the need to know how things will turn out bump us out of the expansive space within our interior castle that provides inner peace as well as specific guidance for the next step forward.

As Eckhart Tolle says so brilliantly states: “No moment of life has ever occurred outside the present moment.” Rumi states this beautifully as he reminds us that past and future veil God from our site.

We are the gatekeepers of our response to life, which shines the light eye to eye with our belief systems along with motives behind why we do what we do.  We come into this world with a set point, basically our personality which naturally  wanders around in two conclusions, perhaps that takes up 10 % of our interior world: Life is for me or life is against me. Then you have your circumstances that pop up, taking up 40% of your attention.  Similar to many websites, you live your life and then a POP-UP jumps up in your face. Finally you have your choice of response to all of it: your set point, what you come into the world with AND life pop-ups (circumstances that show up in life). Bottom line, the world is FULL of creative solutions, it’s simply our perceptions and choice of response that either lock down or uncork our ability to tune into them all…choose wisely, your life experience depends on it.

Let’s explore one question today: Why Is this Happening?

This can be criticism, rejection, grief, loss, pain, illness, family issues, money problems or any other situation that would evoke the response: WHY is this happening? I encourage you to remove this wondering from your life experience because of its ability to keep you in a state of emotional paralysis. Inspiration and a sense of purpose flow from the experience of letting go of your need to know why things happen as they do. Resisting what is in life sets the body up for tension and anxiety. When you release this resistance an abundance of creativity is birthed in the soul.

When you interact with other human beings in this world, take full responsibility for your responses. No human being has the power to make you feel anything, unless you give that power to them. You will often stay stuck repeating negative comments from other people in your head to the point that you miss the opportunities for learning and living right in front of your face. Let go of your need to know why people do what they do or say what they say.

Ask how, when or what questions instead of why questions: How can I return to a place of inner peace? What benefits do I get holding on to this problem? How will I know it is solved? When was a time that this problem was not a problem for me? When you connect yourself to the bene­fits of solution-based thinking, you are free to learn and grow. When you hold onto your need to know why things happen as they do, you will stay stuck in justifications and reasons without changing anything. Ask yourself solution-focused questions throughout your day and watch how the doors open.

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