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2 Questions to Ask Yourself When You are Emotionally Spun:
Let’s face it, life does not always show up the way we want it to. Our greatest place of empowerment lies in our ability to hold our own personal field in spite of the antics that take place in our near field.
Our personal field consists of our choice of response to situations. It is everything that resides inside our interior castle: our connection with the Holy Spirit, our perceptions, conclusions, assumptions and judgments about life. We are the director in the personal field or the landlord of our thoughts, this is the space of free will, by your choice of perspective (assumptions, conclusions and judgments) you direct how your body will respond…in fight, flight freeze OR in creative choices and solution based responses. You get to choose if life is for you or against you in your personal field.
Your near field consists of your relationships with those around you…those situations that exist outside of your personal field. This is where your choice of response manifests outside of you. For example, if I am driving on the road and someone cuts me off in my near field and I choose to take a deep breath, keep my internal lights ON and thank God for protection my choice of response to do so resides in my personal field. I could also choose to react from a “lights-off” or animal planet space and scream, curse and flip off the person who cut me off which always results in more cortisol (stress hormone) in the body, not to mention triggering the inflammatory response.
Their are 2 questions you can ask yourself when you find that you are faced with a life POP UP that could potentially spin you into an emotional down spiral:
- Is this REAL or IMAGINED? Much of what we allow to spin us out of inner peace and confidence never even happens. For example…is it a story you are assuming into existence which is void of fact? Resist the urge to cast yourself as the main character in dramas that have not even occurred.
- Is this MINE or SOMEONE ELSE’S? This question gives you the pause needed to determine if what is happening is directly correlated to you or is it someone else’s learning opportunity. For example you are driving down the road and look down at your phone only to find yourself smashing into the car in front of you. Is this situation a result of something you did? Yes it is. Once you have determined it is yours the next step is to implement effective strategies and action steps to move you in a positive direction. If on the other hand, you speak up at a meeting and share your perspective about a situation and a co-worker strongly disagrees in a belittling tone of voice, this lesson belongs to your co-worker (the “someone else”). Your greatest strength in this situation lies in your ability to maintain your own personal field rather than allowing the unhealthy behavior of your co-worker spin you into a stress storm…which too often ends up on animal planet. Breathe deeply, tap on your thymus, located two inches down from the U-shaped dip at the base of your neck and hold your personal energy field. Remember, the definition of energy is your capacity for action, even if the action is to honor your truth in a calm and confident manner.
Observe when your body gets involved by tugging your emotional responses to life below the line and dumping cortisol into your system. When that happens, step back, breathe deeply and ask yourself: Is this real or imagined? Is it mine or someone else’s? If it is real and it is mine what strategy can I implement to move me in a positive direction that honors the person I am committed to being?
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Enjoy Your Gift of Life,
“The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing
is to be what other people want you to be. Don’t let them put you in that
position. – Leo Buscaglia